Wednesday, October 24, 2012

Shout Out: The Body Love Blog

Chances are you've heard of Stella Boonshoft but if you haven't you need to check her out on The Body Love Blog.

Her blog started just about a month ago with a simple quote by Marilyn Wann.

"The only thing that anyone can diagnose, with any certainty, by looking at a fat person, is their own level of stereotype and prejudice toward fat people." Since then, she's been on a mission to get people to stop hating their bodies. 

Then, two weeks ago, she put up the post that went viral. Here it is:

WARNING: Picture might be considered obscene because subject is not thin. And we all know that only skinny people can show their stomachs and celebrate themselves. Well I’m not going to stand for that. This is my body. Not yours. MINE. Meaning the choices I make about it, are none of your fucking business. Meaning my size, IS NONE OF YOUR FUCKING BUSINESS.

If my big belly and fat arms and stretch marks and thick thighs offend you, then that’s okay. I’m not going to hide my body and my being to benefit your delicate sensitivities.

This picture is for the strange man at my nanny’s church who told me my belly was too big when I was five.

This picture is for my horseback riding trainer telling me I was too fat when I was nine.

This picture is for the girl from summer camp who told me I’d be really pretty if I just lost a few pounds

This picture is for all the fucking stupid advertising agents who are selling us cream to get rid of our stretch marks, a perfectly normal thing most people have (I got mine during puberty)

This picture is for the boy at the party who told me I looked like a beached whale.

This picture is for Emily from middle school, who bullied me incessantly, made mocking videos about me, sent me nasty emails, and called me “lard”. She made me feel like I didn’t deserve to exist. Just because I happened to be bigger than her. I was 12. And she continued to bully me via social media into high school.
MOST OF ALL, this picture is for me. For the girl who hated her body so much she took extreme measures to try to change it. Who cried for hours over the fact she would never be thin. Who was teased and tormented and hurt just for being who she was.

I’m so over that.


and FUCK YOU ALL who tried to degrade my being and sense of self with your hurtful comments and actions.


Standing ovation! Now, Stella is in the process of changing her blog a bit to make it more about her mission and less about her personal life.

Do yourself a favor and follow her blog. We should all be this brave and not just when it comes to our bodies. The courage to be all of who you are is the most beautiful thing in the world. Loving yourself first allows you to be the gift you are to the world. In short, one of my favorite books says it best: "What you think of me is none of my business." Live your life free of worry about what others think.

Also check out Gala Darling: The Radical Self Love Project.

Know of other blogs about proud self acceptance? Share them in the comments section.

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